These days, socianl anxiety became a challenge to many people, since many kids in the household were raised interacting with devices rather than people. Meditation not only helps relive social anxiety, but also helps one grow as a person.Meditation not only helps relive social anxiety, but also helps one grow as a person. As a Chinese proverb said, “Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.” Here is one of our members’ strory about how to overcome social anxiety through meditation.
Living life as an introvert
Power Introvert. That was how I called myself when I was 3rd grade. It has always been difficult for me to approach anyone, and there were only a few people I liked in the class. I had one or two best friends. That was the number of friends around me. If they happened to be absent at school, I was alone. Feeling lonely, I wished that I could have more people around me. Growing up, at school or at work, there was always some kind of fear involved in making new friends.
Having social anxiety was a pain.
I was envious of those who are social, those who do not have a problem talking to anybody. I wanted to change myself. While practicing this meditation, I delved into deep self-reflection and realized that not being able to approach others comes from judgments and pre-conceptions about people. There were people who looked angry, people who looked sad, and people who were so different that I thought I wouldn’t be able to be friends with them.
Everyone is my mirror.
There were couple reasons I had hard time talking to people. During a lecture at the meditation center, my meditation guide told me that people are mirrors of myself. If I have a certain mindset, I tend to see others in that way — for example, I see a person as angry because I have anger in my mind. I couldn’t believe it at first because I thought I would be the last person in the world to get angry at somebody.
Social anxiety, relieved through meditation
I swear, in my life, I have never been the type to get angry at others. After I cleaned up those thoughts with the meditation, I realized that people who used to irritate me no longer bothered me. In fact, they did not bother me; I was bothered by their presence. Through this meditation, the way I see people changed so much. I felt more open-minded to people around me in general. I also realized that everyone has their own beauty, much like how flowers look different but each of them is beautiful in their own way. When I realized that, I began to see others in more positive way. I became more comfortable and happier around people. I can still be an introvert, but I love everyone. As I began to love everyone, I overcome social anxiety. Now I can be friends with anybody.